Don't get too comfortable now...

         Complacency is defined as "a feeling of quiet pleasure or security, often while unaware of some potential danger, defect, or the like; self-satisfaction or smug satisfaction with an existing situation, condition, etc." Comfortability is most of the time a wonderful place to be but what happens when we become too comfortable where we are? One thing that might happen is we may begin to classify that comfortable place as our safe zone, a place where we are most content and we start forming a pattern with our actions where we are finding ourselves attached to that contentedness and our dreams and goals start to become less and less of a priority because we try and contend to that comfortability as much as possible because that is what so many of us have become used to and a lot of us, (including myself at one time), do not handle change very well in our lives. Here is the part where you probably start to wonder what could be the problem with this? Especially when you have a special someone in your life, change will take place pretty frequently at a pretty fast pace and if we are in this complacent mindset, we are not going to be able to accept the changes that may come with having a significant other. This can create many conflicts including becoming very stuck in our own ways and in a sense very controlling in what you say must go which can create an unhealthy situation because if your significant other doesn't feel heard or supported in what they wish to do then this can bring about feelings of unhappiness. Everyone has hopes and dreams for their lives and it's always a great feeling to wake up with purpose each day and to have this "go-getter" attitude so you can always be fighting and working hard towards the life that you dream of. However, that does involve jumping out of our comfort zone and out of that comfortability sometimes to do that. When we become complacent, some of us start to become okay with a mediocre lifestyle with mediocre relationships and I want to tell all of you...YOU DESERVE MORE THAN MEDIOCRE! Each and every one of you deserves the world and take it from someone who at one time was so stuck in my shell that I shut the world out and became this depressed and apathetic person but I soon realized that this world is so much bigger and so much more beautiful than we can even imagine! If I wanted this grand life for myself, I knew that I had to find the courage that was hidden inside of me and go out and conquer my dreams and goals because I knew that my dreams and goals were a part of my story and they weren't coming after me, I had to chase after them. Complacency is dangerous to our dreams and relationships and even to our true happiness because if we become too comfortable with our lives, then we don't want better for ourselves and if we don't want better for ourselves then we don't want better for our relationship and that can be disheartening to our significant other. They want the best for us, we too should want the best for us and for our life. Don't let complacency impact what could be because you are so focused on what is.

Stay happy and beautiful! :)